As the song says, “breaking up is hard to do”. When the former love of your life is an Aries, it can be even more difficult. Men born under the sign of the Ram are irresistible, easily charming the opposite sex. A sexually driven powerful sign symbolized by the Ram, Aries men are romantic and passionate with a flair for the dramatic that any woman would miss. Before you set about trying to win him back, be sure it is the right move for you as Aries men can also be overwhelming, clingy and possessive.
Ignore him. This is critical in the first few weeks after a split: no phone calls, no email, no texting. Ignore him completely. The Aries man will feel the need to dominate any given situation, but he is not looking for someone who simply gives in, nor does he enjoy the easy win. If he wants you back, he will get in touch with you. If he doesn’t, there is nothing you can say or do to change his mind.
Take time to evaluate your relationship. It’s likely to be a few weeks before he’s ready to talk, so make use of this time to look at what went wrong. Think about the way things were between you when you first met. Have you changed? Has he? Take corrective action if you’ve fallen into unappealing habits.
Reinvent yourself. Aries men are known for being fond of girly girls, so take time to find some pretty feminine things to wear. Have your hair and nails done. You’ll feel better about yourself and he’ll appreciate the effort.
Wait at least two weeks and then send him a casual note asking how he is doing. If he does not respond, do not send another. Odds are good he will write back, if only to be polite. Take this opportunity to casually invite him somewhere nonthreatening. Suggest a non-committal activity, such as a having a cup of coffee or offer to buy him a beer at his favorite watering hole.
Pay attention to what he is saying when you two finally sit down to talk. Rather than thinking about what you’re going to say next, listen. Aries natives do not wear their hearts on their sleeves and they are often tongue-tied when it comes to expressing their emotions, so be patient. The Aries is not one to dwell on the past and is not big on holding grudges. He tends to focus on the here and now. Let him express his feelings and make sure he understands you’re okay with his decision, then work on engaging his attention and focusing on the present.
Keep the conversation light, unless he takes it another direction. Use flattery wisely and well as the Aries can soak it up like a sponge, particularly when it is applied to personal achievements. One of the things we miss most about a love relationship is the way the other person made us feel about ourselves. Making your Aries man feel good about himself is a very compelling lure.
You cannot make someone love you, and depending on how it ended, you cannot always win back someone you love. Prepare yourself, as much as possible, for an outcome that falls somewhat short of the desired goal.
Lisa Parris is a writer and former features editor of "The Caldwell County News." Her work has also appeared in the "Journal of Comparative Parasitology," "The Monterey County Herald" and "The Richmond Daily News." In 2012, Parris was honored with awards from the Missouri Press Association for best feature story, best feature series and best humor series.