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Aries is the astrological sign of headstrong, assertive, confident leaders. This sign shows vigor for life and enjoys a challenge. Being on the receiving end of their love is exciting, spontaneous and fun. But during a break-up, the Aries will appear cold, selfish, arrogant and domineering. Winning the Aries back may prove to be difficult, but if you approach the issue at the right time with thoughtful, careful actions, you will get further than if you corner him for a heated discussion. Before attempting to win back an Aries, do things for yourself first to find your own happiness.

Let an Aries have space. Aries do not like to be pushed into anything so leave him alone for a couple weeks. Clingy, boring, cold or possessive people are a big turn-off. If you try to push or fight for an Aries man too early, this will only push him away. This will also give you time to evaluate the situation more calmly and decide what to do next. Aries women are adamant about what they want, although what they think they want may change on a daily basis. This can work in your favor if you are patient. Give her time to miss you.

Get out and do something for yourself. Aries men like active and feminine women. He will appreciate a woman who can go hiking, followed by getting her hair or nails done. Aries women also appreciate an active, fit and healthy partner. Show her your strong, manly side. Aries women like to feel like a woman, even with their tough, sometimes masculine personalities.

After a few weeks, invite the Aries out for a fun activity that doesn’t involve anything too emotionally heavy or commitment-centered. Suggest getting a coffee or beer. Challenge the Aries to a friendly game of pool or Scrabble. This sign likes a challenge and loves to win, but don’t give in too easily. They also love spontaneity so show that you can play that way as well.

Stay away from serious conversation at this stage. Be patient, Aries don’t easily express their feelings and this is not the time to lay that heavy load on the table. They also don’t like to dwell on the past, so talk about light topics in the present tense. Keep things positive and keep your hurt feelings at bay for now.

Show the Aries that you are calm, collected, happy and confident. Let her know that you respect her decision and that you are looking forward, not dwelling on the negative or the past. She will appreciate your sense of self-esteem and respect your demeanor.

Do something that makes you feel attractive, like buying some new clothes. You inner beauty and self-confidence will shine. Male and female Aries appreciate sex appeal, especially if it is coupled with compliments of their own lovemaking ability. Stroking the Aries' ego will definitely help, but you must be skillful to use words you believe, otherwise he will know you are not being insincere.

Only move into a serious conversation if the Aries initiates it or you feel fairly confident that the timing is right. If you have dated for a while, you should be able to read the signs. For the Aries man, stay calm and open when you do talk about more serious things. Listen to him without interrupting or judging. Show respect, concern and support. The worse thing you can do is make this an ill-timed, negative, accusative or close-minded discussion. For the Aries female, let her talk it out when she is ready. Talking about herself is one of her favorite things to do and she will feel better after she lets it out. Work on the here and now, not past mistakes. Pointing out her insecurities, insulting her, playing games or lying to her are the worst things you can do at this sensitive time.