Love is blind, and it’s easy to be in an unhealthy relationship without even realizing it. To make sure you’re not settling in your relationship, it’s important to know what to look out for. Here are some ways to tell if your relationship is unhealthy:

You can’t be yourself.

If you feel like a different person when you’re around your friends and family, it’s a sign that you don’t feel comfortable being yourself around your partner. There are many reasons you might not feel comfortable being you - maybe you’re caught up in trying to act perfect so that your partner doesn’t see any of your “flaws,” or maybe you just don’t feel emotionally close enough to your partner to really let loose and show the real you. Whatever the reason might be, try opening up and being yourself - it’s the only way to see if you’re truly compatible!

Unwillingness to compromise.

Is your partner never willing to compromise when it comes to making decisions with you? Compromise is important no matter how big the topic - it can be something as small as ordering takeout, or as big as deciding on a new apartment to live in. Being in a relationship is all about compromise, so if you feel the relationship is totally one-sided, it’s probably time to have a conversation about it.

Emotional abuse.

If you’re in an abusive relationship, it’s sometimes harder to get out of it than others might think. When it comes to emotionally abusive relationships, sometimes this type of abuse can be super hard to pinpoint. If your partner repeatedly criticizes, blames, and puts you down, these are all signs of emotional abuse and an unhealthy relationship.

Lack of trust.

It’s common for couples to have trust issues here and there, but if you find yourself constantly worried about your partner doing something (like cheating for example), it’s probably a sign that your relationship isn’t healthy. If you don’t trust your significant other, try to get to the root of why you’re feeling that way - we think counseling can be a huge help here.

Lack of respect.

For a relationship to be fulfilling and last, it requires mutual respect. Signs of your partner not respecting you include feeling used, feeling like you get put down a lot, and getting the sense that your partner doesn’t listen to you when you talk. All of these things are unhealthy in a relationship and can have a huge impact on your self esteem over time.


Spending every single moment together might sound amazing, but in reality it’s not the healthiest thing for a relationship. If you feel like you and your partner rely on each other for every little thing, and you can’t do anything on your own (or be alone), that could be a sign of an unhealthy relationship. It’s important to not lose yourself in a relationship, and to maintain some sort of independence.