No matter who you are, romantic rejection can be a tough situation to handle. It can sting your ego, make you feel foolish and shatter your hopes. If you have been rejected by a man, remember it is not the end of the world. There are many ways to recover from heartache, and get yourself back on track.
Acknowledge how you feel. It is important that you allow yourself some time to address your feelings after you have been rejected. Ignoring your pain and bottling it up inside will do nothing to help you move on. Face your feelings, but give yourself a time limit. You do not want to let your feelings get out of hand and take over your life. Do not allow yourself to cry in your bed for days on end with a pint of pistachio ice cream. No man is worth that, especially if he rejected you.
Stay busy. Being occupied with life is an effective way to get over feelings of rejection. Remember that you have a lot of things to be happy about, and be thankful for a reason to start a new chapter in your life. Remind yourself that you do not have to waste time thinking about the man who rejected you by going out with your closest friends, starting a new hobby or putting in some extra effort at your job. These things all can be excellent for your mental health. And for all you know, you might meet a new and exciting man.
Learn from the situation. Be neutral and take a long, hard look at your relationship. Try to discern whether you might have done anything to bring upon the rejection. Ask yourself if you were coming on too strong, or if you perhaps didn't give him enough attention. If you feel that you contributed to the situation's outcome, take it all in so you can avoid making the same mistakes next time.
Get physically fit. Rejection can be very emotionally taxing and stressful. Use this opportunity as an excuse to get in shape. This can be a great way to get out your extra energy and feelings of hurt. Exercise also is beneficial as it brings out your endorphins, which can improve your mood naturally and make you feel better.
Write it out. Use this time to chronicle your roller coaster of emotions. Vent your feelings in a journal. It might help to write a letter, and pretend that you are addressing it to the man who rejected you (just make sure that you do not actually send the letter to him).
Confide in someone. Find someone that you trust and tell that person all of your feelings. Talk your feelings out and try to get some (neutral) assistance for how to put the rejection into perspective. Most, if not all, people have experienced some form of rejection in the past, so your friend will likely be able to give you some firsthand experience.
Always remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea. Being rejected by one man is by no means a big deal. You never know who might be waiting for you just around the corner.
Seek professional help if you become depressed and find it difficult to conduct daily activities of living.
Lars Tramilton has been writing professionally since 2007. His work has appeared in a variety of online publications, including CareerWorkstation. Tramilton received a bachelor's degree with a focus on elementary education from Kean University.